Healing Homophobia in Students of Christian Science – Submitted by Bob McCullough – Tuesday 23 September 2014

 

WSJ: Are you surprised by the rapid shift in public opinion toward support of gay marriage?

GINSBURG: The reaction to Windsor I think has been positive from the public. She was such a well-chosen plaintiff. People could understand the injustice of the way she was treated. I haven’t seen a social change that rapid in – ever. It’s just great that people who for years have been disguising what they were are now free to be what they are. I’m sure you know that years and years ago Justice [Lewis] Powell said there was never a homosexual clerk at the Supreme Court. Of course there were. And he had some.

Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

http://blogs.wsj.com/washwire/2014/05/02/excerpts-from-wsj-interview-with-justice-ruth-bader-ginsburg/

 

 

“. . . , I suspect you have been loving to gay members but still approached them as in NEED of healing for being gay or lesbian which would make them feel less than acceptable as if they are broken and in need of being fixed.  An example of this can be clearly seen in your comments listed below which you gave at Principia College in the spring of 1996 and appeared in Christian Science: Its encounter with gay/lesbian America, page 172: Perhaps the most significant discussion of same-gender sexuality at Principia in this period came in the aftermath of a Christian Science lecture.    . . .  C.S.B., a member of the C.S. Board of Lectureship, gave a Church sanctioned lecture at Principia College. In her opening remarks she quoted Mrs. Eddy: ‘In C.S. mere opinion is valueless’ (S&H 341:11) and reportedly told everyone ‘Homosexuality is something that needs to be healed.’  All Bible quotes against homosexuality were brought out.”

Response to C.S.B.’s  anti-gay comments delivered at Principia College.

04/23/2014

 

 

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If I Have Gay Children: Four Promises From A Christian Pastor/Parent

by John Pavlowitz

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Sometimes I wonder if I’ll have gay children.

I’m not sure if other parents think about this, but I do; quite often.

Maybe it’s because I have many gay people in my family and circle of friends. It’s in my genes and in my tribe.
Maybe it’s because, as a pastor of students, I’ve seen and heard the horror stories of gay Christian kids, from both inside and outside of the closet, trying to be part of the Church.
Maybe it’s because, as a Christian, I interact with so many people who find homosexuality to be the most repulsive thing imaginable, and who make that abundantly clear at every conceivable opportunity.

For whatever reason, it’s something that I ponder frequently. As a pastor and a parent, I wanted to make some promises to you, and to my two kids right now…

1) If I have gay children, you’ll all know it.

My children won’t be our family’s best kept secret.

I won’t talk around them in conversations with others. I won’t speak in code or vague language. I won’t try to pull the wool over anyone’s eyes, and I won’t try to spare the feelings of those who may be older, or easily offended, or uncomfortable. Childhood is difficult enough, and most gay kids spend their entire existence being horribly, excruciatingly uncomfortable. I’m not going to put mine through any more unnecessary discomfort, just to make Thanksgiving dinner a little easier for a third cousin with misplaced anger issues.

If my children come out, we’ll be out as a family.

2) If I have gay children, I’ll pray for them.

I won’t pray for them to be made “normal”. I’ve lived long enough to know that if my children are gay, that is their normal.

I won’t pray that God will heal or change or fix them. I will pray for God to protect them; from the ignorance and hatred and violence that the world will throw at them, simply because of who they are. I’ll pray the He shields them from those who will despise them and wish them harm; who will curse them to Hell and put them through Hell, without ever knowing them at all. I’ll pray that they enjoy life; that they laugh, and dream, and feel, and forgive, and that they love God and humanity.

Above all, I’ll pray to God that my children won’t allow the unGodly treatment they might receive from some of His misguided children, to keep them from pursuing Him.

3) If I have gay children, I’ll love them.

I don’t mean some token, distant, tolerant love that stays at a safe arm’s length. It will be an extravagant, open-hearted, unapologetic, lavish, embarrassing-them-in-the-school cafeteria, kind of love.

I won’t love them despite their sexuality, and I won’t love them because of it. I will love them; simply because they’re sweet, and funny, and caring, and smart, and kind, and stubborn, and flawed, and original, and beautiful… and mine.

If my kids are gay, they may doubt a million things about themselves and about this world, but they’ll never doubt for a second whether or not their Daddy is over-the-moon crazy about them.

4) If I have gay children, most likely; I have gay children.

If my kids are going to be gay, well they pretty much already are.

God has already created them and wired them, and placed the seed of who they are within them. Psalm 139 says that He, “stitched them together in their mother’s womb”. The incredibly intricate stuff that makes them uniquely them; once-in-History souls, has already been uploaded into their very cells.

Because of that, there isn’t a coming deadline on their sexuality that their mother and I are working feverishly toward. I don’t believe there’s some magical expiration date approaching, by which time she and I need to somehow do, or say, or pray just the right things to get them to “turn straight”, or forever lose them to the other side.

They are today, simply a younger version of who they will be; and today they’re pretty darn great.


Many of you may be offended by all of this, I fully realize. I know this may be especially true if you are a religious person; one who finds the whole topic disgusting.

As you’ve been reading, you may have been rolling your eyes, or clicking the roof of your mouth, or drafting familiar Scriptures to send me, or praying for me to repent, or preparing to Unfriend me, or writing me off as a sinful, evil, Hell-bound heretic… but with as much gentleness and understanding as I can muster; I really couldn’t care less.

This isn’t about you. This is a whole lot bigger than you.

You’re not the one I waited on breathlessly for nine months.
You’re not the one I wept with joy for when you were born.
You’re not the one I bathed, and fed, and rocked to sleep through a hundred intimate, midnight snuggle sessions.

You’re not the one I taught to ride a bike, and whose scraped knee I kissed, and whose tiny, trembling hand I held, while getting stitches.
You’re not the one whose head I love to smell, and whose face lights-up when I come home at night, and whose laughter is like music to my weary soul.
You’re not the one who gives my days meaning and purpose, and who I adore more than I ever thought I could adore anything.

And you’re not the one who I’ll hopefully be with, when I take my last precious breaths on this planet; gratefully looking back on a lifetime of shared treasures, and resting in the knowledge that I loved you well.

If you’re a parent, I don’t know how you’ll respond if you find out your children are gay, but I pray you consider it.

One day, despite your perceptions of your kids or how you’ve parented, you may need to respond in real-time, to a frightened, frantic, hurting child; one whose sense of peace, and identity, and acceptance; whose very heart, may be placed in your hands in a way you never imagined… and you’ll need to respond.

If that day should ever come for me; if my children should ever come out to me, this is the Dad I hope I’ll be to them.

* Note: The word “gay” in this post, refers to anyone who identifies themselves as LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, or Questioning) . Though I certainly realize and respect the distinctions and differences, it was simply the word that would quickly and easily communicate within the context of the piece. It was the clearest and best way to address non-hetereosexual individuals in the post, by using a common tern that would resonate with the average reader. Hopefully my heart for the LGBTQ community is still clear in the writing.

http://johnpavlovitz.com/2014/09/17/if-i-have-gay-children-four-promises-from-a-christian-pastorparent/

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3 thoughts on “Healing Homophobia in Students of Christian Science – Submitted by Bob McCullough – Tuesday 23 September 2014

  1. Name withheld

    I pray for all the children who had the love of their families and then lost it because they were LGBT. I believe having love and losing it is worse than never having it to begin with to the human sense.

  2. ReReverend paul Lachlan Peck

    Amen to this pastor’s response to life’s perfections! As for me, I have children and/or grandchildren who are “gay”, love people from other churches, races, levels of income, and so much more that might be different from them. Yes, it is time. It is time for spiritual, religions, and human freedom from any-everything that is falsely beheld by anyone. Like God, we are all Love!

  3. Don Griffith

    Are we approaching this topic correctly? Mankind, with students of Christian Science leading the exit, should work to grow out of ALL matter—not just selective materiality. God is Spirit. There is not one individual who can exit “world belief” in a material form. All mortality must be dropped for spiritual understanding which will eventually transport each of us beyond a matter-based sense of things. Our true and only anatomy, is spiritual. It consists of the infinite and eternal qualities of God. “There is no night (false belief) there.” There is no judgment there, either.

    God’s reality has no material gender, type culture, race, creed or supposition. Life and Life’s reflection is HERE/NOW with man as the male and female of Love’s Genesis-1-based creation. In our journey heavenward, forms and functions of this world pass away. Pain disappears, and pleasure takes on an entirely new spiritual definition and meaning. The “old [material concept of] man” dissolves and the “new [spiritual understanding of] man” as only immortal, eternal, substantial and infinite, appears. Spiritual progress should be the topic and the only goal to be considered. The so-called “human experience” unfolds harmoniously and naturally as spiritual focus improves. Eventually, we will all learn that God alone is Love.

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